Sense and sensibilities – the case of a rebuffed fatty who cried foul at frankly expressed dieting advice

Alf has some sympathy with the “foul-mouthed” surgeon who was reprimanded for swearing at a severely obese patient and for punishing her by removing her from a waiting list.

The doctor, known as “Dr B”, told his gastric bypass patient, “Ms A”, that she was “going on a f****** diet” after she complained she disliked the word “diet” and preferred to talk about “lifestyle”.

He had put the Maori 44-year-old on a list to be considered for surgery after a tense consultation last April at which he used forms of the F word at least three times.


Make no mistake, Alf regards the surgeon’s next move as unpardonable.

In a letter written seven weeks after she complained, the surgeon offered what Health and Disability Commissioner Ron Paterson calls a half-hearted apology – and took her off the list, asserting they no longer had a “therapeutic relationship”.

“This appears to be retribution on Dr B’s part for Ms A’s action in laying a complaint,” Mr Paterson says in a decision to be published on the commission’s website today.

Yep. Retribution.

He didn’t take the patient off the list as soon as she rejected his advice to diet. He did so only after she complained.

In the upshot, the commissioner has found the general and gastro-intestinal surgeon – and his district health board – breached the code of patients’ rights.

But Alf is bothered that this matter has been turned into the stuff of politicking.

Associate Health Minister Tariana Turia, who has had the operation herself, was approached by the woman and told the Herald yesterday that the surgeon’s behaviour was “scandalous”.

“I just can’t believe this person, who is extremely powerful. He abused his specialist role. He’s abused his power by taking her off the waiting list when she complained.”

At least the surgeon has not been accused of being culturally insensitive.

His offence is the way he told a fatty she should diet and his churlish response to her complaint.

In this case, according to the Herald’s account, we do not know the woman’s weight –

…but her body mass index (BMI) is recorded as 168, suggesting that if she is of average height, she would weigh more than 180kg.

She works fulltime, is a mother and reported swimming three times a week, but had repeatedly failed at dieting, quickly regaining weight after relapsing.

Dr B explained to her the necessity of patients changing their lifestyle and dieting if they were to shed kilos and maintain their new weight after the operation.

She told him she disliked the word “diet” and preferred to talk about “lifestyle”.

Ms A said in her complaint letter: “[Dr B] disagreed and said if I couldn’t handle the word diet then he challenged my motivation and stated that I would never survive surgery because I was still bullshitting myself and therefore my thinking was still f****d.”

A nurse told the investigation that Dr B said: “You are going to be on a f***ing diet.”

It sounds like he gave her good advice and it sounds like he communicated it effectively.

There could be no misunderstanding, surely.

Alas, this isn’t about giving frank but bluntly expressed advice.

It’s about sensibilities.

Mr Paterson said Dr B, who admitted using the bad language, showed no understanding of the vulnerability of an obese Maori in her 40s.

His language and conduct were demeaning, insulting and unprofessional. “He showed disrespect for a patient who understandably felt embarrassed about her obesity.”

The DHB had partly tolerated his language, done too little to address his behaviour and responded too slowly to the complaint.

He recommended Dr B undertake a communications skills course and meet Ms A and her whanau to address her concerns.

The medical director said the DHB would comply. Dr B knew he had a problem

Alf disagrees.

It’s the patient who has the problem.

If Alf bridled at a doctor who prescribed abstinence for his dicky liver, and retorted that he had a problem with the word “abstinence” and preferred the doctor talk about “lifestyle”, he would expect a tart retort.

And if the doctor said “Alf, you bastard, you are giving up the fucking booze”, then Alf would know exactly what was being prescribed and exactly where he stood with the doctor.

If he didn’t like the advice, he could go elsewhere.

What the health commissioner calls bad language, Alf calls good language. It’s the stuff of effective communication.

Ask Hone Harawira. He’s a bloody good communicator.

One Response to Sense and sensibilities – the case of a rebuffed fatty who cried foul at frankly expressed dieting advice

  1. oswald Bastable says:

    “Hey you fat fuck- you are going to die if you do not do as I say!

    “DO YOU UNDERSTAND ME!”

    “Now drop and give me twenty!”

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